Weekly Round-Up by Lara Livingstone
Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade
It’s rare that you have a week when two much loved icons in your life, die at their own hands by suicide.
The shockwaves of the loss of the two is all the more painful, when you think that to the outside world, they appeared to have the recognition, success and wealth most of us strive to attain.
Depression is the silent killer that’s on the rise not just among the troubled, poor and disenfranchised, but among the successful and affluent, who should by all rhyme and reason, be untouched by the descent into a black hole so deep, that at its very worst, cannot be escaped.
In this week of overriding sorrow it’s easy for us all to make pronouncements about contacting helplines and being more open to acquiring an understanding and further education about depression.
But let us not forget that we have a duty of care in life, to be vigilant over those we love, to constantly tell them how loved and valued they are and most of all to reassure them that we support them through the good days and the bad.
RIP Kate and Anthony – We love and miss you but thank you for the creative light, inspiration, colour and storytelling you touched our lives with.
The Impossible Mind of Donald Trump
The ‘genius’ (his words not mine !) that is Donald of the Trump, in a bid to connect to any part of the electorate, who just might be swayed by a needless pardon, has announced he might pardon the late great Muhammad Ali. Ali, who was convicted for evading the Vietnam War draft.
But someone needs to tell the donkey called Trump is that Muhammed Ali’s conviction was overturned 8-0 by the Supreme Court in 1971. Meaning there is absolutely no reason for President Trump to issue him with a pardon.
What never fails to amaze me is Trump’s continual ability to deflect from real, hard issues in pursuit of easy wins and opportunities to show what a great and wise leader he is. Neither the public or Ali’s estate are buying this irrelevant gesture. In fact Not long after Trump ‘pardon sharing’ an attorney for Ali’s estate and family responded, saying that a pardon wouldn’t be necessary.
What the betting that the donkey ignores everyone and issues a pardon anyway ?
So I’ve now spent 11 days at a hostel, as a grown up and it’s been……enlightening ! Aside from the noise, mess, ability to party and drink to excess, their lives have got me questioning my own.
I’ve often wondered what it would be like to start my life again…say from my mid-twenties onwards. It feels like my twenties were innocent, compared to the pressures that seem to be loaded on people today.
Maybe it’s because I was in the relaxed atmosphere of the hostel, where people laughed, talked, shared and noticed as a commonality between all of the people I’ve come across is this sense of finding themselves.
We all have that life and self pressure of achieving perfection. Of finding our perfect life, filing it with perfect things…job, relationships, homes, cars and other stuff – but what happens if you do all of that and you’re still ‘empty’ – do you have the right take your foot of the gas, and push the reset button?
I’ve met some incredibly bright, young people who genuinely seem lost under the weight of trying to compete with their peers,, but felt obligated to continue with life paths that appease their families , while still keeping up with the Joneses.
For me travel is my reset. The changes that I’ve made to my life have been incredible in the last two and half years. The chance to reflect, talk to others and learn so much about myself has been a gift I never felt that I deserved or as possible. I relish and give thanks for it daily.